The other day I put up a picture on Facebook of me and my daughter. It was a ‘selfie‘ (hate that word..) and we were in the car taking a road trip for the day.
This Picture..
In the picture, my daughter was kind of slumped and not sitting up straight and she was eating a BANANA…
I posted this on Facebook the moment I took it because I thought it was kind of cute! I think I tagged my Mother-in-law in the picture, but I can’t remember. Later that night, my mother-in-law came into my room and told me that her friend thought my daughter looked fat in the picture.
WTF? Are you serious? My daughter is 7 years old, almost 8 and weighs a WHOPPING 48 lbs. Yes, she eats unhealthy at times and loves her sweets, but for goodness sakes, what child doesn’t love her sweets? She also eats very healthy meals. In fact, she eats THREE very healthy meals each day. They are called breakfast, lunch AND dinner…
What Happens When You Call A Girl Fat?
Are you serious?? This is my miracle baby! Do you know how saying something like that can HARM someone? Do you know saying something like that could cause someone to feel so badly about themselves that they harm themself? Obviously you do not know these things or you would not have said it.
I am assuming you have no children of your own? But, you do. I know you do. You also have grandchildren of your own, whom happen to be little girls. I certainly hope and pray that one day you do not tell them they are ‘fat’.
Adults can be bully’s too and that is exactly what you were when you said my daughter looks ‘fat’ in that picture. Why did you feel you could say something like that? Were you having a bad day? Did someone make YOU feel badly about yourself? Do you feel badly about yourself? I just can’t wrap my head around why you would feel the need to make such a damaging comment like that. It blows my mind and in a horrible way.
I am trying my hardest to raise a little girl who is proud to be who she is. Proud to be the size she is and proud to just be HER. My little girl is tiny for her age, who knows, maybe next time she will be called out on being too tiny, some day… sigh. It never ends! Name calling, rude comments, bullying, it NEVER ends no matter how old you are!
I am proud of my little girl. She is the sweetest most GENEROUS person I know and would never hurt a fly (yep,she saves them and sets them free outside!). So why did you feel the need to pick on her? I am so ashamed for you, for saying/thinking bad things about my sweet little girl.
I am so happy that my little princess did not hear your horrible words. I am happy that my little girl, for now, is happy with herself and her body. I am happy that my little girl is PERFECT in my eyes and that she belongs to ME. I am honored to be her mother.
As for you, I will pray for you. I will pray that no one has ever called you fat or said degrading things to you. I will pray that we do not meet face to face again, for I will have a word or five for you. For now, seek some guidance, learn from this horrible mistake and for the love of God, pick on someone your own SIZE!
From,
♥Presley’s Mama
Sandra Watts says
Terribly rude. I hope your daughter did not see that. Shame on whoever would say such a thing about a child. I personally think your daughter is beautiful.
Nikki K says
What an idiot, was that the first time she’s ever seen a person sitting? Why can’t people just be nice. I’m absolutely not saying anything bad about your mother-in-law, I’m guessing she told you because she was upset about it too. I just think that maybe she shouldn’t have told you. You knowing that information didn’t benefit you in any way, just caused a lot of hurt and anger. (Sometimes Ignorance Is bliss That’s why I never weigh myself on a scale; I know I’m overweight, I don’t need the scale making me feel even worse than I already do). If you ever find out who it was maybe you could pay some teenagers to Tee-Pee her house or something.
Shell Feis says
Honestly, I can’t believe someone had nothing better to do than to judge your daughter, whether she actually is fat or not {and, clearly, she is not!}. I would be so insanely livid and I’m so sorry you had to deal with that!
Ellen Beck says
Your daughter is cute as a button. I am glad she didnt see the comment as it would have hurt her feelings.
You would think someone her age (the woman who said it) would know better.
Sandy Cain says
Not to put too fine a point on it, but what an @$$hole. And, BTW, your MIL’s “friend” is NOT a friend!!!!
jasmine says
How can someone think she’s fat!? Some people should just have a muzzle put on them! Your daughter is beautiful!
MomMaven says
How rude. Some people have no class.
@SensiblySara says
Your daughter is just beautiful. I think some people feel the need to talk badly because they are unhappy with themselves. That’s no excuse, though, especially not when you are talking about a little girl who needs all the love and support she can get to grow into a strong, proud human.
Penelope says
I’m disgusted that anyone would call such a sweet angel fat…obviously that lady thinks what a person looks like is how they should be judged, and honestly…glass houses, lady, glass houses. Don’t throw stones about looks.
Jeannette says
Your daughter is a beauty and shame on anyone who says differently! I think sometimes adults don’t think of how their words can effect children and it’s really sad!
sippycupmom says
I’m sorry, but what a BIOTCH. What kind of person says that about a child? Even saying it about an adult, I side eye you because you’re not a nice person then.
Melinda says
It still is throat punch Thursday right. She deserves one. Shame on her
Liz Mays says
Your daughter sounds like such a sweet person. It’s a shame people on the internet are so rude…
Kim Delatorre says
I know! It breaks my heart.
Crystal says
People just don’t think sometimes. I just don’t understand what have been going through that woman’s head when she thought that, typed that, and hit send. Ugh. It is a wonderful thing that you are Presley’s mama. She’s lucky to know that she is perfect, at any size.
Kim Delatorre says
Thank you my friend!
Nolie says
WHAT THE FUCK!!!! Sorry that is the best friendly-ish thing I can say right now.
Kim Delatorre says
Haha! Trust me, I get it! That is exactly what I said when I heard this!!!
Allison says
This is so infuriating! Your daughter is beautiful and that woman had no right saying anything bad about her. Good for you for raising her the way that you are – just tune out the BS!
Kim Delatorre says
Thank you! I will tune it all out!
Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says
I hope she sees this. I really do. First of all, your daughter IS NOT fat and thank god she doesn’t know anything about this. She is an absolute doll and I am sorry you had to deal with this BS. I would have been just as furious.
Kim Delatorre says
Thank you! I hope she sees this post too!
ARod says
SMH some people don’t know that old saying if you cant say anything nice SHUT UP!! LOL Your daughter is super cute
Kim Delatorre says
I know! I learned that saying at an early age and some people really just don’t get it.. Makes me sad for them.
jehaine says
Some people just open their mouths and toads hop out. Your little girl is obviously not overweight & even if she had a few extra pounds it rude to comment like this person did. Would she say that to an adult if they had a weight issue?
Kim Delatorre says
I know, right? Some people just make me shake my head :/