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5 Things Not To Say To Someone Who Just Turned 40

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Sad to say, but yes, last year I turned the BIG 4-0. It was not as hard as I thought it was going to be, but I certainly did not like the number I was turning..

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I have been alive on this earth for 40 years? How on earth is that even possible? I am elderly, decrepit and just plain OLD!

Now, those of you who are 40 (or older), do not get offended, please. These are just my opinions about turning 40, yours may differ and good for you if they do! Yay!

When I turned 40, so many people said things to me. Some were funny, enlightening and even uplifting! Those were nice to hear! But, there were some people who perhaps thought I was dangling one foot in the grave and that was not okay.

Afterall, 40 is not THAT old, right? I will be 41 in October….. GAH. The things below, please just don’t ever say to a loved one, okay?

5 Things Not To Say To Someone Who Just Turned 40

5 Things Not To Say To Someone Who Just Turned 40

  • Are You Going To Be Okay? Ummm, I got asked this a couple of times and I am not quite sure why I was asked this? Of course I am going to be okay! Is there a reason why I should not be okay?
  • Now that you are 40, you can’t have anymore kids! Really? I can’t have anymore kids? Who the hell wrote that rule? Sure, I feel like I am done having kids and probably will never be pregnant again (pretty sure anyways!), but if it did happen again, I certainly would not be upset and I am sure my 40-ish year old self could take pretty good care of another child, just sayin’…
  • When I turn 40, I hope I look as good as you do! This is obviously intended to make me feel really good, but really? I hate it! I mean, what exactly DOES 40 look like? Am I supposed to have a cane and wrinkled, weathered skin? To tell someone this is just like saying “I hope I look as good as you when I am OLD”…
  • Oh, you’re 40? Wow.. As if 40 is just too old to even look decent? As if being 40 means the end of it all? What exactly DOES that comment mean anyways?? It left me SO confused and elderly feeling…
  • Wow! Look at her, she is just like us! Yep, that was said one night… A couple of 20 and 30 year olds said this to me, indicating that I was SO old, yet I was ‘cool to hang with’ and ‘still so fun and pretty’! UGH. Seriously? I wanted to elbow the cute little blond and smack the brunette upside the head! WTH?

Even though I am 40 and will be 41 in the next couple months, I feel young, look young and hope to stay this way for a LONG time! 40 is not bad, it really isn’t. It is just a stupid number, it matters how you feel inside 🙂

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Kim Delatorre is a mommy to three beautiful, smart kids and wife to an amazing husband of 24 years! She enjoys reading, writing, spending time with her family, and blogging.

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  4. AEKZ2 says

    I’m 44 and loving it! I feel great and I’m comfortable with myself. My advice is to surround yourself with positive people.

  6. Candie L says

    Im fixin to be in your shoes. I think I enjoy these years more. The way I see life is completely different than when I was in my 30s.Thank you

  12. laurie murley says

    my adviceis, it just a number don’t let it bother you so much, its how you fell inside, I know things are happing with your body but it takes time to adjust and live with it

  13. Nicole Carter says

    I don’t know of any advice, I’m going to be 40 in May! I guess some advice would be that some days the aches and pains will be better than others!

  15. Karen Drake says

    My advice ( coming from a 50 something year old person) is don’t dwell on those things you don’t have but relish every thing God has given you in life and take time to enjoy life every day.

  17. Janice Cooper says

    My advice is to embrace and enjoy your 40’s. Stay positive and active. I’m 45 and I feel great!

  26. Debbie F says

    I’d say eat well cause your body starts falling apart if you don’t. 😀
    Not trying to be mean, I’m 43 – people told me the same thing (without the eating well part) and sure enough, when I turned 40 I started having all sorts of aches and pains.
    So I revamped my diet – and all the aches and pains are gone!!!
    haven’t had to take a pain killer – even on “those days” since!

    You look amazing for any age anyway so I wouldn’t worry about it. 🙂
    thanks!

  27. Robin W says

    My best advice is not to dwell on a number. The old cliche is true “You’re as young as you feel”

  28. Nicole Fontecchio says

    You’re only as old as you feel! Remember that age is just a number and that stressing over it is pointless.

  29. Nataile Brown says

    Haha! As a person who looked young at the age of 40, I remember hearing these things too. Today, I’m 52 and have even survived menopause. lol I just do what makes me happy. I don’t place an age on being “old” or being “young”. I know people much younger than me who act “old” and people older than me who act “young”. It just comes down to being happy with who you are no matter the age. 🙂

  30. Joanne Gregory says

    Don’t dwell on your age! Enjoy each day and believe me, life gets better and better!

  34. Kelly D says

    My advice is to not focus on a number and just “think young”. I will be there in a few years.

  38. Natalie says

    I don’t have any advice but I do like hearing about what NOT to say. Sometimes I mean well but the words slip out of my mouth…. 🙂

  39. steve weber says

    40s are the new 30s.. enjoy it! it goes by fast I would imagine.. just be you- that’s who people love.

  43. Debbi Wellenstein says

    I would say be grateful for each day that you have. Have some fun, and make some people smile.

  44. ewhatley says

    I’m well past my forties but what I remember is that 40-50 was a great decade. I looked good, felt good, career was hot and so was romance. It was so much fun so that’s what you can anticipate – make it happen for you. Remember, you are now a year closer to retirement which is absolutely the best time of all.

  48. furby76 says

    I do not have any advice since I will be 40 next year. My kids who are teens make me feel like I am ancient. I was doing dishes the other day and broke out into my rendition of Please don’t go girl and my daughter ask me what I was singing. So off to youtube we went so I could introduce her to NKOTB. Her response was OMG are they still alive. I almost grounded her.

  50. Tari Lawson says

    I think your 40s are great. I know I gained more confidence and found my voice even more in my 40s. Celebrate you! find things you love and really embrace them.

  51. Cynthia C says

    You can’t fight age, so just take care of yourself so you can enjoy every single day.

  52. vickiecouturier says

    my advice is to enjoy the moment,,its just a number and its all in how you feel and act,,i know some ppl that are 40 that look 75 and then some who look 25 so it varies with each person,,enjoy it and live it

  55. thelemondaisy says

    Happy birthday! I received very wise advice when I was 20 from a 100 year old woman. She never told anyone her age because, she said, once you do they know exactly where to place you like a book on a shelf. Meaning, you were assigned their own ideas of what that age means.

  56. Karen Glatt says

    My advice to you is to Be good to yourself. Without you being happy, you can’t give to the ones you love.