*This is a partnered post with K-Y. Content is my own.
Once you have kids, things really change. Having kids is time-consuming (in a good way of course!) and trying. At the end of the day, I just want to go to bed and sleep! I don’t want to do anything else, ever.
Finding time to be with my husband is really hard to do. We have to find a babysitter and I am NO good with leaving my precious gems with anyone! I tend to worry SO much about something happening just because I wanted some time away from them, that I just end up calling the whole thing off and stay home! I know, I am crazy, right?
So, date nights are hard, but we do have them, I swear we do! And keeping intimacy alive in my marriage? Yes, that takes a TON of work too! Like I said above, I am TIRED at the end of the day, the kids not only wear me to my bones, but I do work from home too (hello! I am a blogger!) and that takes a lot from me too. So, all you busy parents get it, right? We are TIRED!
But when my hubby cuddles up to me and wants some lovin’s, I can’t push that man away. Well, I do when I am super tired but I can’t always push him away! So what do we do at times like this? Well, we lock our bedroom door and have ‘our time’ together. Our MUCH-NEEDED time together.
I am NOT a sex toys person and never have been. To each their own, but that is not me. We do use lubricants at times, but that is about it. So, me and hubby just ‘hang out‘ 🙂 You get the picture..
Being a busy, married couple with three kids, I know we HAVE to make time for one another. We miss the old days when we could be fun and spontaneous! We have to make time for all of that. But for now? We just enjoy one another company. He knows I am here for him and I know he is here for me, whenever, whatever the reason/s. We are connected and talk, a lot.
Me and my husband have been married for 17 years and though we have been through a rocky time, last year (that was HARD), we have come out stronger because of it. We are way more connected then we used to be and that is SO important, to be connected to your spouse. To understand them, listen to them, make them feel like they are special (because they ARE).
Keeping intimacy alive in my marriage is not just having sex. It is being with one another, holding one another, listening, comforting, laughing and just being with one another.
How Do You Stay Connected With Your Significant Other?
Lily Kwan says
I spend time with my significant other and keep the lines of communication open.
Michelle A says
We always try and make time for ourselves. Not just date nights, but time at home too.
Richard Hicks says
We try to have a few nights every month just for ourselves
ColleenMarie says
We try to go on date nights at least once a month!
Cami v says
We have Friday as date nights. We put the kids to sleep and stay up and watch a movie. Or like lock our door. Every relationship has hard times it is how you deal with them that will make or break the relationship. You made some very ballad points.
Marnie G (Derrick Todd) says
Staying connected is so very important. I think it is important to be present and to make time to just be together. We make a point to put our phones, tablets or laptops away and to spend quality time together.
Joanne Gregory says
It is not easy with family and commitments. But even just a hug, a quick back rub, a kiss on the cheek when we pass in the hall – it all helps to keep us connected.
Dagmar M says
I have been married for almost a year and we dont have children yet, but these are great tips for the future!! Even now with our busy schedules its hard.
Natalie says
We try to regularly schedule date nights together but it does not always happen.
Mia says
Our kids are grown but it is still important to us to have our dates and make time together in this busy world. We take off and have a road trip every few months just to get away.
Wendy Browne says
It is VERY important to stay physically intimate, regardless of how tired or distracted you are. Men view sex and touching as a way to communicate a lot more than just the act and feel very rejected if you aren’t in the mood. I should know, it was a huge issue in my first marriage. I try to initiate when I can and just go with it otherwise, sometimes you don’t feel like sex but ummmmm come around to it as it happens.
vickiecouturier says
good points,,my husband and i have a date night
According to Ashley Bree says
thank you for posting!