I never knew what Highly Sensitive Parent was until I had kids. I mean, duh, right? I wouldn’t know what highly sensitive parenting was unless I had kids. Makes sense…I Am A Highly Sensitive Parent And That Is Okay!
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Before I had kids, sounds and noises did not bother me as much as they do now. More times than not, I find myself in my room with the t.v. on in the background, just for some peace and quiet after a longgggg, loud day.
Some days I am SO touched out that I just have to get away and be by myself! Can you relate? Do most of you even know what a highly sensitive parent is?
I Am A Highly Sensitive Parent And That Is Okay
I NEVER knew what a highly sensitive parent was until I was browsing on Facebook and came across a group that was suggested for me. I joined the group and was in shock at how much I had in common with all of these people! I finally knew what was going on with me! It was such a relief because I thought I was just a bad mom!
What Is A Highly Sensitive Parent Like?
A highly sensitive parent has heightened senses to noises and being touched. There are certain noises that I absolutely can not listen to for a short period of time. The first time my child squeals loudly or screams super high-pitched or loud, I cringe. I can’t handle it! I feel so angry and have to find a quiet place.
Then there is the touching and hugging, kissing and just being in close quarters with other people. My kids love hugging and I LOVE that they love hugging me! I really really do! But sometimes, I just can’t do it. I pull away or go to my room. Sometimes I get so ‘touched out‘ that I HAVE to be by myself! This never happened before kids, but now it happens more than I would like to admit, because I am a highly sensitive parent!
After a long, LOUD, touchy-feely day, I feel like I need silence and no touching! My poor hubby likes to cuddle and I just can’t after days like that. I feel horrible but I just can’t! I need a chance to recover from the day and just recharge myself in a good way. Relaxing in my room, allows me to do just that because I am a highly sensitive parent, ugh!
However, my kids like to come in and out of my room, screaming, running and laughing. It is fine if they do that but I also have to put my foot down sometimes and just let them know that mommy REALLY needs time to unwind and zone out for a bit. Usually, my kids listen and are good about giving me my space. I am so highly sensitive it can suck at times!
Often times I feel mom guilt because I am NOT that mom that goes to the park with her children or takes them to public places all the time. Sure, I DO take my kids places and we do things but I will NEVER be that outgoing mother who takes her kids to playdates or to the park and mingle with other moms. I just CANNOT do it because I am a highly sensitive parent. If I do, I will have to recover, at night, from all the noises I hear during the day to all the touching and anxiety. I need to unwind in my way or I will not be able to function.
I know my kids are happy and I know that I am not a bad mom for being highly sensitive. It is just something I have to live with and my kids understand that mommy needs a time out, from time to time.
I am happy that I found other people/parents who are going through the same exact thing as me and that I am not weird or being a horrible parent. I Am A Highly Sensitive Parent And That Is Okay!
I am looking into books I can purchase and I am trying to start my days off on a more positive note by reading inspirational quotes and by reading other highly sensitive parent’s stories. These help me SO much! Find out if you are a highly sensitive parent here.
If you think you are a highly sensitive parent, then research it! You are not alone! I would love to hear your stories, if you want to share them, in the comments below.
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I am not highly sensitive but I did notice after kids that the slightest noise will wake me up, now.
YESSSS! I’m sensitive too!
Leigh W. Smith says
Yes, definitely, though I also had not heard about being ‘touched out.’ Sometimes when I’m in a ‘bad mood’ (I generally know what my triggers are), I do feel this way, too—like not being touched and the least little noise of things dropping gets me upset. For me, it tends to coincide with my period, and knowing that helps me (and my family) cope with my sensitivities accordingly (knowledge is power, right?!). Anyway, I am glad you have learned to accept this part of yourself, Kim! (Oh – – – And then there are times that I want my husband to be more of a cuddler than he is, like you say your husband is!)
Nicole L. says
Interesting, I never considered myself highly sensitive,but maybe I am.