5 Things Not To Say To Someone Who Just Turned 40

Sad to say, but yes, last year I turned the BIG 4-0. It was not as hard as I thought it was going to be, but I certainly did not like the number I was turning..

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I have been alive on this earth for 40 years? How on earth is that even possible? I am elderly, decrepit and just plain OLD!

Now, those of you who are 40 (or older), do not get offended, please. These are just my opinions about turning 40, yours may differ and good for you if they do! Yay!

When I turned 40, so many people said things to me. Some were funny, enlightening and even uplifting! Those were nice to hear! But, there were some people who perhaps thought I was dangling one foot in the grave and that was not okay.

Afterall, 40 is not THAT old, right? I will be 41 in October….. GAH. The things below, please just don’t ever say to a loved one, okay?

5 Things Not To Say To Someone Who Just Turned 40

5 Things Not To Say To Someone Who Just Turned 40

  • Are You Going To Be Okay? Ummm, I got asked this a couple of times and I am not quite sure why I was asked this? Of course I am going to be okay! Is there a reason why I should not be okay?
  • Now that you are 40, you can’t have anymore kids! Really? I can’t have anymore kids? Who the hell wrote that rule? Sure, I feel like I am done having kids and probably will never be pregnant again (pretty sure anyways!), but if it did happen again, I certainly would not be upset and I am sure my 40-ish year old self could take pretty good care of another child, just sayin’…
  • When I turn 40, I hope I look as good as you do! This is obviously intended to make me feel really good, but really? I hate it! I mean, what exactly DOES 40 look like? Am I supposed to have a cane and wrinkled, weathered skin? To tell someone this is just like saying “I hope I look as good as you when I am OLD”…
  • Oh, you’re 40? Wow.. As if 40 is just too old to even look decent? As if being 40 means the end of it all? What exactly DOES that comment mean anyways?? It left me SO confused and elderly feeling…
  • Wow! Look at her, she is just like us! Yep, that was said one night… A couple of 20 and 30 year olds said this to me, indicating that I was SO old, yet I was ‘cool to hang with’ and ‘still so fun and pretty’! UGH. Seriously? I wanted to elbow the cute little blond and smack the brunette upside the head! WTH?

Even though I am 40 and will be 41 in the next couple months, I feel young, look young and hope to stay this way for a LONG time! 40 is not bad, it really isn’t. It is just a stupid number, it matters how you feel inside πŸ™‚

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  1. My advice is to take one day at a time, learn from yesterday, live in the present, and plan for the future.

  2. My advice is live life to the fullest.

  3. Plan carefully, things are going to get worse before they get better.

  4. I’m 44 and loving it! I feel great and I’m comfortable with myself. My advice is to surround yourself with positive people.

  5. Don’t get hung up on the numbers.

  6. Im fixin to be in your shoes. I think I enjoy these years more. The way I see life is completely different than when I was in my 30s.Thank you

  7. My advice would be is you’re only as old as you feel.

  8. Stephanie Walker says:

    Just keep living on, age is just a number. Be Happy everyday to wake up breathing πŸ™‚

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  10. You young whipper-snapper! I have’t been 40 for 27 years. Don’t count the years, count the experiences.

  11. Congrats on your birthday. You could run for President now. Think you have to be at least 37

  12. laurie murley says:

    my adviceis, it just a number don’t let it bother you so much, its how you fell inside, I know things are happing with your body but it takes time to adjust and live with it

  13. Nicole Carter says:

    I don’t know of any advice, I’m going to be 40 in May! I guess some advice would be that some days the aches and pains will be better than others!

  14. Susan Smith says:

    My advice is to embrace 40 and remember its just a number. Take care of yourself.

  15. Karen Drake says:

    My advice ( coming from a 50 something year old person) is don’t dwell on those things you don’t have but relish every thing God has given you in life and take time to enjoy life every day.

  16. 40 is easy, 50 isn’t

  17. Janice Cooper says:

    My advice is to embrace and enjoy your 40’s. Stay positive and active. I’m 45 and I feel great!

  18. jenny stratton says:

    Age is just a number. I am 51 and enjoying my life more than ever,

  19. Maryann D. says:

    40 is not bad at all! Just keep enjoying life!

  20. enjoy it, my 40s have been my best decade

  21. Cynthia R says:

    40 is the new 30, live fabulous as you deserve!

  22. I’m only 30, so I’m not sure I can offer any helpful advice. I would say keep doing what you’re doing because it’s working!

  23. My advice to you as a 60-year old, is to embrace it!

  24. Well, can I say you are probably the hottest 40 year old I ever saw?

  25. Candice M says:

    My only advice would be to just enjoy yourself.

  26. I’d say eat well cause your body starts falling apart if you don’t. πŸ˜€
    Not trying to be mean, I’m 43 – people told me the same thing (without the eating well part) and sure enough, when I turned 40 I started having all sorts of aches and pains.
    So I revamped my diet – and all the aches and pains are gone!!!
    haven’t had to take a pain killer – even on “those days” since!

    You look amazing for any age anyway so I wouldn’t worry about it. πŸ™‚

  27. My best advice is not to dwell on a number. The old cliche is true “You’re as young as you feel”

  28. Nicole Fontecchio says:

    You’re only as old as you feel! Remember that age is just a number and that stressing over it is pointless.

  29. Nataile Brown says:

    Haha! As a person who looked young at the age of 40, I remember hearing these things too. Today, I’m 52 and have even survived menopause. lol I just do what makes me happy. I don’t place an age on being “old” or being “young”. I know people much younger than me who act “old” and people older than me who act “young”. It just comes down to being happy with who you are no matter the age. πŸ™‚

  30. Joanne Gregory says:

    Don’t dwell on your age! Enjoy each day and believe me, life gets better and better!

  31. You are only as old as you allow yourself to feel! Keep feeling young and doing as you’ve been doing, and you will stay young forever!

  32. Do what makes you happy each day so you never have regrets πŸ™‚

  33. Stay active and keep doing everything you want.

  34. My advice is to not focus on a number and just “think young”. I will be there in a few years.

  35. never stop excersising…just gets harder when your older

  36. Keep living life to its fullest! You aren’t anywhere near old!
    Ashley C

  37. Sandy Cain says:

    My advice is, enjoy yourself, youngster. I’m 61. OH EM GEE

  38. I don’t have any advice but I do like hearing about what NOT to say. Sometimes I mean well but the words slip out of my mouth…. πŸ™‚

  39. steve weber says:

    40s are the new 30s.. enjoy it! it goes by fast I would imagine.. just be you- that’s who people love.

  40. Happy Birthday! Enjoy every day and don’t think about your age. You are so young!

  41. I turned 40 in March so I totally get this! Love it!

  42. Enjoy yourself, life just gets better.

  43. Debbi Wellenstein says:

    I would say be grateful for each day that you have. Have some fun, and make some people smile.

  44. I’m well past my forties but what I remember is that 40-50 was a great decade. I looked good, felt good, career was hot and so was romance. It was so much fun so that’s what you can anticipate – make it happen for you. Remember, you are now a year closer to retirement which is absolutely the best time of all.

  45. The advice I have is just to remember you’re not only getting older, but getting better! Embrace your experience and wisdom and pass it on!

  46. tat2gurlzrock says:

    LOL! Happy Birthday! My advice is it is nothing but a number!

  47. Kathy Hecimovich says:

    way over 40 only gets better

  48. I do not have any advice since I will be 40 next year. My kids who are teens make me feel like I am ancient. I was doing dishes the other day and broke out into my rendition of Please don’t go girl and my daughter ask me what I was singing. So off to youtube we went so I could introduce her to NKOTB. Her response was OMG are they still alive. I almost grounded her.

  49. Always remember to stay happy! πŸ™‚ and smile!!

  50. Tari Lawson says:

    I think your 40s are great. I know I gained more confidence and found my voice even more in my 40s. Celebrate you! find things you love and really embrace them.

  51. Cynthia C says:

    You can’t fight age, so just take care of yourself so you can enjoy every single day.

  52. vickiecouturier says:

    my advice is to enjoy the moment,,its just a number and its all in how you feel and act,,i know some ppl that are 40 that look 75 and then some who look 25 so it varies with each person,,enjoy it and live it

  53. I don’t have any advice! I turn 40 in October and I’ll probably hear the same stuff you have. By the way, even though I’m “ancient”, I am pregnant with my 4th child.

  54. Margaret Smith says:

    Happy Birthday. Make the most of everyday and don’t give age any thought.

  55. Happy birthday! I received very wise advice when I was 20 from a 100 year old woman. She never told anyone her age because, she said, once you do they know exactly where to place you like a book on a shelf. Meaning, you were assigned their own ideas of what that age means.

  56. Karen Glatt says:

    My advice to you is to Be good to yourself. Without you being happy, you can’t give to the ones you love.

  57. I didn’t really feel like 40 was as much as a milestone as everyone says… I just keep acting young! Happy Birthday!

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